It has been two weeks since Trey took his life. In some ways it seems like forever an in other ways it seems like just yesterday. Trey was the friend that I was referring to in my previous post. It came as a shock to many of us when he first attempted suicide. He always had a smile on his face and had so many friends. We would later learn that he was going through a personal crisis with his marriage. I don’t know all the details and so I will just leave it at that. He was doing better we thought and he was tweeting and posting on Facebook about how he has a lot of speaking engagements coming up. Unfortunately he wrote about a future that he chose not to have. I think that is the hardest part of his death. He made a choice not to exist anymore. My father made the same choice on New Year’s Eve 2009. I will never understand why my Dad made that choice and I don’t understand why Trey made that choice. Trey was such a gentle soul to his friends. He really cared about you and gave you his undivided attention
I like to think that Trey’s death brought a lot of attention to suicide and hopefully someone will ask for help when in a black hole or others will reach out to someone that is down. Trey and my Dad are two people that I would have never thought for a second that they would end their own lives. We need to realize that no one is suicide proof and we must be aware of how we are feeling and reach out and connect to others.
His friends have connected with each other. Trey would really like this. Trey has a remarkable mother, his brother Erick has communicated and let everyone know what was going on and even shared his eulogy. I have become friends with his cousin Rhonda who was extremely close to Trey in the past year. Money is being raised to have a swing donated in his honor in Falls Park to be facing the Liberty Bridge. This was his favorite place in the world. He was well traveled so the fact that the Liberty Bridge in Greenville SC was his favorite place speaks volumes.
I miss Trey’s posts and his pictures from the bridge. My heart goes out to his six children. I am much older than they are and I am still hurting over my father’s death and don’t understand it so I am sure that they are hurting even more. I am including some links at the end of this post. Two were made by his friends in his honor. We are going to walk in honor of Trey on his birthday at the Walk out Darkness to be held in Spartanburg. Please open the link and donate. This goes to suicide awareness. I am also including a link to the Survivors of Suicide page. This is a great source for those trying to make sense of suicide and try to heal.
I just ask that everyone be aware of those around you and reach out and connect. I am taking my own advise and trying to make myself get out of my four walls and get back into life. It is too short.
Trey Pennington, In His Own Words
Russell Tripp’s Video of the candlelight memorial
Out of the Darkness Walk-Team Trey’s Light Please donate
Survivors of Suicide
Greenville SC Survivors of Suicide